We are what we only pretend to be. So we must be careful about what we pretend to be. Kurt Vonnegut
Whoever came up with the notion of becoming a "master of perfect stillness" probably was not thinking about single mothers working at home on a snow day.But you are right. It's a good thing to keep an eye on that lil' inner flame.
you might find the Zen Judaism quite enlightening...well, in a crooked way